What you probably do not know about me is that I am an only child. Since I was little I always wished I had a sibling. Even though I grew up with lots of cousins that I am close to it just wasn’t the same as having a sibling. When I was little I always knew I wanted to have more than one child because I hated being the only child. Before my husband and I got married we thought we would only have 2 children. When our 1st child was born I loved being a mom and having a child so we decided to have another baby which we lost but God in His perfect plan blessed my husband and I with 3 more children after our loss.
I have always enjoyed being pregnant. Looking forward to the anticipating of a new baby, holding the baby for the 1st time and the new addition to our family. Two Christmas’ ago I started praying that God would bless our family with another girl for my daughter. With 3 boys and 1 girl I wanted her to have a sister. Praying for quite sometime God answered my prayer last August. My daughter and I are thrilled that we are having another girl.
I look at children as a blessing from God. Beautiful gifts. I can’t understand why people look at children as a burden. As you can imagine with 4 children and 1 on the way the rude comments I get are troublesome.
Just yesterday while shopping with my 4 kids (and it’s quite obvious we are expecting our 5th, due next month) a woman came up to me and said, “surely you are not having twins.” then at the same store a woman started counting my children and saw my pregnant belly and said, “wow 5 you are a brave woman.” My response was it has nothing to do with being brave, it’s about being blessed.”
Just yesterday while shopping with my 4 kids (and it’s quite obvious we are expecting our 5th, due next month) a woman came up to me and said, “surely you are not having twins.” then at the same store a woman started counting my children and saw my pregnant belly and said, “wow 5 you are a brave woman.” My response was it has nothing to do with being brave, it’s about being blessed.”
I have received other various rude comments from strangers such as my husband and I should get a t.v. in our room. And the one that urks me the most that I hear frequently is wow you have your hands full. Someone gave me some great advice when our 4th child was born about comments like that, a response that I use all the time. When someone says my hands are full my response is it’s better than being empty. Or how about are these all yours? My thoughts, no I just purchased them at a garage sale but I bite my tongue and just smile and explain how blessed my husband and I are.
Other comments: Are you trying to compete with the Duggars? Are you trying to form your own homeschool group? You have enough kids to form your own baseball team. Or how about you do know what causes that?
Personally it’s no one’s business how many children my husband and I have or how many your family has. It’s a personal decision. Thankfully we have never had to ask anyone for help, God has truly provided. I know many may disagree and think I have too many children or maybe I should have adopted but that is not God God’s will for our family. He has entrusted us with these children. He has a plan for my family.
I know several of you have large families and have heard similar type comments. Sure it can get you down and it can be quite frustrating and upsetting especially when the comments come from family or “friends”. Whether it’s 1 child or 10 look at those sweet blessing (s) God has given you and don’t worry about what people think or say. Just be truly thankful!
I love being a mom. I am thrilled to get to spend everyday with them and watch them grow. Thankful God chose me to be there mom. I know a time will come when they are grown up and out of the house which I try not to think about because it breaks my heart so I take each day and thank God for His wonderful blessings He has bestowed on our family.
Genesis 1:28
And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
Psalm 127:3-5
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. If you have a large family, how do you handle the “comments” about your decision to have a large family?
Genesis 1:28
And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
Psalm 127:3-5
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. If you have a large family, how do you handle the “comments” about your decision to have a large family?
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