I am almost out of the 1st trimester! Yipee! I had an ultrasound Thursday – they said all looks wonderful! Praise God! The baby looked in it was in a bounce house – bouning all around! At 12 weeks they could tell with my 2 boys that they were boys – she didn’t see anything between the legs – hoping this is a girl! But grateful for just a healthy baby. God has been so good to me with this pregnancy – hardly any morning sickness! Very grateful because this is our last baby. Yesterday (Father’s Day) I felt the baby flutter!
Why is it that I am so excited but noone around me seems to be. I have had even my own family say hurtful things, even people I thought were my friends. Things from my family ” We will be happy when you stop having kids” Or like a comment I heard yesterday – we were talking about baby names – I heard ” You got yourself in this mess”. I didn’t know having a baby is a mess? This is a life we are talking about – made from the grace of God’s hands and lovingly made by my husband and myself – why is that wrong? Yes, this will be out 4th child but why not congratulate me if you are a member of my family, why not be supportive? I have had to completely reply on God because the rude comments have really hurt! Why can’t people just be happy for each other? Why is there so much hate in the world? If you are a mom, give your little blessing (s) a great big hug and thank God for His wonderful miracle(s) He has added to your family!
Sorry for the weird pic, I scanned it but it turned out weird.
So glad that all is going well. Congratulations!
How awful of them to say these kinds of things. I want to have a big family (5 or even 6 kids), and if anyone said that to me I swear I’d punch them. Babies are a miracle…all of them!!
Dude, seriously. The next time it happens, don’t just act hurt. Hit them where it hurts. Are they Christian? Tell them Jesus loves little children. Seriously. That will shut them up really quickly.
What I can say is that if all you were doing is talking about baby names that they are such snots. Ignore them (or take the above advice and hit them with the Jesus thing, it will absolutely kill them).. I can’t imagine ever saying that to someone. Now, if you were complaining about it? Then I can see them saying something, but not a ‘mess’. Good grief.
We also have four kids and our last two are only 17 months apart. I remember some of the hurtful comments people made. My dad’s favorite line was “that’s what happens when you have too many kids.” (I think he was trying to be funny, but I didn’t find it funny at all). Finally I asked him, “Which one of your grandchildren should I not have had?” Didn’t ever hear that from him again.
Hope your family and friend realize soon how much of a blessing this baby is. It’s hard when people are unkind.
I have 4 children and the are my everything! God has truly blessed me with my angels. It doesn’t matter what others say. you are blessed! Children are a gift from heaven.
~blessings
Dorcas
I AM SOOOOOOOO VERY HAPPY FOR YOU!!! I CAN NOT WAIT TO HOLD THIS LITTLE BABY! YOU ARE SUCH A GREAT MOMMA, THAT IT WOULD BE A WASTE NOT TO HAVE AS MANY KIDS AS YOUR BODY WILL GIVE YOU 🙂 I LOVE EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOUR BABIES!
MELISSA
So sorry to hear that people could not be happy for you. I have 4 beautiful kiddos and I can’t imagine not having any of them. Wish we were younger so we could have more. I will pray this pregnancy goes smoothly for you and that you and your sweet family can enjoy it and be happy no matter what others think and feel about it.
God Bless you and this sweet little life growing in you.
Blessings
Jill
She is beautiful:O)(or he)
I just have two and when people ask if we will have more, before I can answer they say you probably shouldn’t. I am so sorry they are not supporting you. I support you!!!! Yipppy for baby #4:O)
Congrats. We are trying for number 4 now and I know that I will have to hear the same types of comments from family as well. Hang in there you were chosen to care for this precious baby for a reason. *hugs*
aww what a sweet picture! You are right each child is a gift from God!
That’s so weird. Family and friends should support and nuture. Some people can’t handle a lot of children because they lack the life skills required and they assume others have the same problem, lol. I’m pregnant with #3 but mine is just a shrimp, lol. I would love a 4th!
Well here’s a hearty CONGRATULATIONS from a stranger in blogdom. I’m also very happy that your pregnancy is going smoothly. Children indeed are a gift from God. I’m pregnant with my 2nd and still nursing my 18 m/o. I haven’t heard anything but criticism from my parents either, and we plan to have more after this, God willing. Thankfully my husband’s family is very supportive. Whatever others say, your children were all given to you by God to care for, love, and nurture. I think God knows what He’s doing better than those who look down on you. *Big hug*
People are stupid sometimes. I don’t know you in person, but I know you are a fabulous mother, and I’m excited for you’re new baby.
there is nothing wrong with having 4 kids! They are all a blessing! Those people should not open their mouths of they don’t have something nice to say. Sorry people are being rude. It sucks…
Congratulations! I know it’s a relief to get out the first trimester with everything looking good!
I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had to deal with such negativity. That is so bizarre–it’s not like you have a truckload already! That’s the last thing you want to deal with when you’re pregnant. I for one am happy for you!
Congrats Nicole! I’m so happy all is going well and I am so inspired by your gret blog, the time you give to your readers, your childen, homeschooling and the strong Christian faith you show in you words and actions. What a lucky little baby to have you as a mom and what a lucky family you have that you continue to bless them with children in their lives in spite of their less-than-tactful comments. Prayers for you and the little bean tonight!
Any child is blessed to be a member of your loving family. God knows. Your immediate family knows. We know, too!!! If there is a silver lining, maybe it is showing your children how to respond in God’s love when people say things they shouldn’t! Ah, those lovely character building opportunities… 😉 You are a blessing to so many! Praying for you and this sweet blessed baby!
I am so sorry people are saying those things to you. I have heard mean and hurtful things this time too (also our 4th). I have even got the “Congrats, I GUESS” comments. What do you mean you guess?? Children are a gift from God!! HE is the one who sent their little souls to us, so how can you not be happy?
I am excited for you and crossing my fingers you get a little girl. We were hoping this one would be a girl, but God wanted us to have another boy. =) I am in love with him already though.
HUGS!
I’m so sorry about the discouragement of people who speak before they think.
I am the 2nd of 6 kids, and when my mother was expecting #6, my church had a worship service where they asked for praises, and I said that I was thankful that my mom was having another baby…I didn’t understand why others weren’t excited, all I knew was that a baby was a gift. You know that, and this child will know that. The other people in your lives should live their own lives, and not tell you how to live yours.
All the best in the months to come!
Thanks for the follow! I’m already a follower of yours. Congrats on the pregnancy! So sorry that you aren’t getting the support you need. I can totally relate. I gave birth to my 7th child 4 months ago, and the hateful things family has said to me for the last at least 5 kids have just been horrible. Seems anymore, people think that if you have more than 2 kids your plain ole stupid or crazy! I finally got to a point recently where I decided to cut all the negativity out of my life. It was a no-win battle trying to defend myself against those people and I had finally had enough.
Congratulations! And hooray for a healthy little one!
When I was pregnant with both my 2nd and my 3rd I had friends say “Don’t you know what causes you to get pregnant yet”. Um…yes, I do. That’s why I did it and brought their lives into this world, duh! I think (and hope) they really never meant it like that, I was just a young starter. Here I am with 3 and they’ve yet to have 1. Still, people should really think before they say anything. Because even if a baby was a surprise…that’s a human life they are speaking of! A precious child!
From my family to yours, we wish you a healthy happy pregnancy and little one!
Congrats on the pregnancy. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with 4. My husband and I want 4 kids ourselves. People should know better than to say rude things to pregnant women! 🙂 Thanks for the follow. I am a follower of yours too!
Katy
http://www.kdbuggie.blogspot.com
Congratulations and I am so glad things are going so well. Unfortunatly sonetimes people don’t think before they speak. That is no excuse for the comments but hopefully they don’t really mean it bad. I know sometimes our families are concerned about our finacial well being and not our mental well being. Maybe they see it as a possible finacial strain on you and are concerned and just doen’t know how to say it right. But keep your chin up!!!! You must be a GREAT mamma! I homeschool also and it is no easy task and I think it takes a special love and patients to have your kids around all the time! I commend you for having another child and caring enough for them to be sure they are raised with reverental fear of God! Keep up the good work and remember that what man says and they see you will fade away but what God says and how he sees you will stand forever, so please HIM and rely on him! May God Bless you MORE!!!
Been following you for awhile–this is really good news. To me, it’s always a neverending miracle when pregnancies (and the babies which they are) go well and as planned. Life is precious! Crazy, hectic, but precious. Keep us posted.
I’m just sad that it’s not TWINS!!!!
xoxoxo